I think it is so confusing, weird and upsetting the amount of contradictions that come up about parenting. Books, articles, news; everything and everyone have different opinions on what should be done when a child cries, needs fed, how they sleep; everything. I just don't understand why everyone feels the need to impose their beliefs on other people.
All morning while my boys are playing and watching different shows that they love (YES I let my boys watch TV and I'm totally fine with it!) I have been taking the time to read different articles about parenting, learning different things and views of how other people think I should raise them. How other people respond, or I suppose lack of response to their crying child. Yes I am completely guilt of REFUSING to let my youngest, 11 months in two days, cry-it-out. I think crying-it-out is one of the most ridiculous, upsetting practices still done. I don't understand the people who have told me that I have to let him cry-it-out or I will spoil him. Why can't I comfort my child, why can't I make sure he knows he is love and listened too?
Co-sleeping is another issue I have heard way too many views on, that I don't care about. Unfortunately I didn't listen to my own intuition with my two oldest boys. I let the complaints, concerns and opinionated views of other people cloud my own intuition. I knew what was right for my sons but I didn't want to do something wrong. I didn't want people to know when I "slipped-up" and just let my son(s) sleep in my bed. I was to scared someone would say I was a bad parent, say I was going to hurt my boy, say I would mess them up. I was already a young mother, I was 19 when my first was born. I had already spent months with people telling me that I shouldn't have my son, I was too young, it was wrong. But my mom was young too there is nothing wrong with it if you are capable of loving, caring and being the best possible parent you can be.
When my youngest son was born the nurse at the hospital yelled at me for keeping him in bed with me. She scolded me for not letting him sleep in the horrible little see-through, cold prison like box they call a bassinet. She had the nerve to tell me I didn't know how to take care of him, that I was wrong for wanting to be close to my baby and hold him. He was my third not my first, I have taken care of two others in the hospital just the same and the other nurses never told me it was wrong. They never told me I couldn't hold the baby and love them, bond with them. They even had the nerve to try and give him a bottle because he was sleepy and didn't feel like nursing. They tried to force formula on my son. I freaked out.
I don't care what anyone says, I will continue to feed on demand as long as my son want (11 months and still going strong) I will continue to co-sleep with him because it is what works for us, it helps me and him feel secure and actually get sleep. I will continue to respond to each and every cry he needs me for. I want to be the best mother I can be and doing what my intuition tells me is the only way I know how to be a parent. <3
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